Old Dog, New Tricks … is really a reference to the concept of habits. “I’ve always done it that way” or This is how my parents raised me” or “I just don’t know what else to do” are indicators of a firmly entrenched, habitual way of interacting with [reacting to?] others.
Many parents have found it helpful to experiment with writing reminders on sticky notes around the house to let their eyes help their brain remember – after all, learning new skills is about breaking old habits. Chose the one that resonates with you and reflects your parenting style [or what you want your parenting style to be]:
- I’m the parent.
- This is fun.
- I’m running an experiment.
- Tomorrow is another day.
- This is worth it.
- Anger and frustration beget misbehavior.
- This too shall pass.
- I’m the role model.
- I can do this.
- Deep breaths and calm voice.
…or whatever will enable you to zero in on your own parenting Achilles’ Heel.
Affix your chosen reminder strategically.
- By the alarm clock.
- Next to your make up.
- Under the toilet seat lid.
- On the cereal box.
- In your purse.
- On the dashboard.
- Over the computer screen.
Help remind yourself that there IS a better way.
It may feel silly at first, but most new ideas do. If you’re worried about your kids asking what all the notes are about, you can just look at them with confidence and pride: “Trying out some new parenting skills. What do you think? J”
